Guide to Being the Ideal Plus-One by Lisa
Being someone’s plus-one can be both a privilege and a challenge. On one hand, you’re the chosen companion, trusted to behave appropriately and likely considered attractive. On the other hand, you might feel like an afterthought, a mere placeholder in the crowd.
Attending an event where you’re unfamiliar with the crowd can be an exciting experience. It’s like being part of a live theatre show or your own version of the Truman Show, where everything is new and intriguing – at least until the drinks start flowing.
However, navigating such an event requires some guidelines. Depending on the nature of the event, be it a work party or a wedding, some rules may not apply. Use your discretion to determine what’s appropriate.
Prepare Yourself
Before the event, get a brief overview of who will be attending. Understand who your companion likes or dislikes and any social dynamics you should be aware of. If your companion starts giving you a detailed briefing, consider asking for compensation or finding an excuse to avoid the event.
Support Your Companion
As a plus-one, you’re there to support the main invitee. Avoid negative comments or actions towards them and show genuine interest in their conversations. In group situations, become their biggest fan. Laugh at their jokes and agree with their statements, unless they’re being self-deprecating, in which case, lift their spirits.
Act Surprised
Even if your companion has shared all the juicy details about the guests, act as if you’re hearing the information for the first time when interacting with others. Practice your “surprised face” and “interested face” beforehand. As a newcomer, you’ll likely hear many stories, so prepare your responses.
Be the Bridge
As a plus-one, you’re free from any existing awkwardness between the guests. You can safely engage in conversations others might avoid. Use this opportunity to improve your companion’s relationship with anyone they’ve had past issues with.
Dress Appropriately
While you want to look good, remember that the spotlight should be on your companion. Ask for dress code suggestions but use them as a guide, not a rule. You want to be remembered for the right reasons.
Behave Yourself
Being a stranger at an event can be exhilarating, but don’t let it go to your head. Avoid being the center of attention and stay close to your companion. Remember, you’re there to support them, not to wander off on your own. Also, avoid getting drunker than your companion.
Enjoy Yourself
The goal of a plus-one is to enhance the experience of the person who invited you. Don’t be a wallflower unless specifically asked to. The best way to thank your companion is by having a good time and involving them in the fun. However, avoid getting romantically involved with anyone else at the event. As a plus-one, you’re there to be admired from afar. If anyone shows interest in you, discreetly share your contact information. Soon, you’ll have your own stack of plus-one invitations.
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