Examining the Advantages and Disadvantages of Homemade Gifts by Lisa

Exploring the Advantages and Disadvantages of Homemade Gifts — Plus Expert⁤ Advice on How to Give Them

In⁢ our modern, fast-paced world, most products are mass-produced. So, how can you express your unique love to your partner with a gift that has countless identical copies?

The solution is simple: Present them with a homemade gift.

This isn’t a novel idea. Before the advent of online shopping, malls, and department stores, gifts were typically handmade. ​Crafting something yourself might‌ be ⁣easier than finding the perfect artisan to create it‍ for you.

However,‍ in the 21st century, DIY gifts can seem unconventional or even cheap to some.‌ If a homemade gift doesn’t⁣ hit ⁢the mark, it can ​hurt more ​than a store-bought⁤ item.

Essentially, DIY gifts are a gamble. They can be unforgettable romantic gestures that your partner boasts about for ​years, or ⁢they⁣ can be ​disastrous, leading to arguments⁤ or even breakups.

Most likely, they’ll fall somewhere in between. But how can you tap into the potential romantic power of a DIY gift? And when should you opt for a homemade gift over a store-bought one?

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Whether you’re celebrating your partner’s birthday, an anniversary, or ‌just want to surprise them, here are some expert tips for creating a ‍gift that’s sure to be a hit.

Benefits of DIY Gifts

There are numerous ⁢benefits to choosing DIY gifts. Here are a few, according ⁤to Steffo Shambo, a dating and relationship expert.

  • It showcases your creativity — and‌ interestingly, a ‍ 2017 study found that women are more attracted to men they⁢ perceive as⁤ creative.⁤
  • It‌ can save you money. The cost of materials for ​a photo album of travel memories or an engraved⁣ wooden sign is often less than ‌a piece of jewelry, trendy gadget, designer handbag, or other typical store-bought gift.
  • It ‍shows thoughtfulness. ⁣ Creating a painting‌ of your⁣ partner’s favorite beach or a personalized coupon book‍ of acts of service requires considering your partner’s desires and needs, which is sure to make them feel cherished.
  • It allows for personalization. You can use their favorite colors, scents, or flowers in your homemade gift, or incorporate a significant date, like⁢ your anniversary or the day you met.

Drawbacks of DIY gifts

However, there⁢ are also some downsides to DIY ⁢gifts. Here are a few to consider, according to Shambo.

  • It’s time-consuming. “A DIY gift often requires more effort compared to simply buying a gift,” Shambo explains. You have to gather ⁣all the necessary materials,‌ and depending on your choice, there may be a lot of work involved in making the gift.
  • Some skill is required. It’s crucial to realistically assess your abilities before starting a complex project. “There is a ‌greater margin of‍ error,” says Shambo. “And if a DIY gift doesn’t ​turn out well, it can’t be returned or exchanged.”
  • It may not be well-received. Despite the time‌ and thought you put into it,⁣ a DIY gift isn’t guaranteed to be a hit with everyone. ⁤Ksenia Droben, CEO at Droben Matchmaking, says she recently surveyed⁢ people at⁢ her‌ agency about​ their thoughts on a man’s DIY ⁣gift: a homemade box containing a simple white origami-style paper flower. “Most of the women said that they did not want a gift like that, and that they would prefer something from a shop, even if it was not expensive. ​Most of the men said‍ it was a wonderful gift.” The bottom line is that some people prefer practical gifts over sentimental ones.

Keep in ⁤mind: If your DIY gift isn’t well-received, that can actually provide valuable insight, says Daria Chase, a licensed psychologist ⁤specializing in couples and relationships.

“It’s also a great way to get to know ​someone⁢ at the beginning of a relationship, as it can serve as a way to understand someone, their values and if they align with yours. If the person does not appreciate this kind of gesture and prioritizes monetary value over emotional value, it’s important to‍ know this early on in‌ the relationship to avoid disappointment later.”

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When⁢ to Give a DIY Gift

Before you decide on a DIY gift, experts recommend considering the occasion and ⁢the length of your relationship with your partner.

According to ‌ Lisa Mirza Grotts, a certified etiquette professional, it’s more challenging to ‌opt for a DIY gift at the beginning of a relationship.

“At this stage, there aren’t many shared memories — it’s‍ too personal and too ⁢soon,” she explains.

Shambo agrees that DIY gifts are​ often more successful once you know⁢ your partner well.

“You can ​tailor them based on their favorite⁣ hobbies and interests — like painting a ‌portrait of their beloved pet or baking their favorite treat,” he⁤ says.

That’s ⁣not to say you ⁣can’t give a DIY​ gift early in the relationship, but Shambo suggests keeping them simple —​ like creating a playlist of songs that remind you‌ of them,​ cooking their favorite meal, or writing a thoughtful card.

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“Reserve more elaborate DIY ​gifts for later once you really understand their style and preferences,” he advises.

Shambo points out that a DIY gift is ‍also perfect for partners who are ⁢difficult to shop for. ⁢If​ they tend to buy whatever they ​need, a handmade gift is the ideal solution because it’s ⁣something money can’t buy.

“DIY gifts are also suitable for partners who have unique niche hobbies that stores don’t cater to,” adds Shambo.

Do’s & Don’ts for Homemade Gifts


  • Incorporate your recipient’s interests, passions, and values: If your partner is an environmentalist, use eco-friendly reusable gift wrap, suggests​ Shambo. Or, if they adore their pet, consider making a ​gift they can use with their furry friend. This‌ attention to detail will certainly ‍be⁤ appreciated.
  • Put a unique twist on something traditional: Droben recommends a handmade necklace or bracelet, DIY bouquet, or a homemade ‌batch of her favorite sweets. ⁤Jewelry, flowers, and chocolate are all traditional and universally loved gifts, but‍ adding your personal touch will make it special.
  • Consider their love language: If your partner’s love language is quality time, why not⁤ make them a pickleball paddle for your next date? If their love ⁤language is physical touch, consider making a custom massage oil blend. Or, if their love language is words of affirmation, you⁣ might write a list of all ‌the things⁣ you love most about them ⁣and have it framed.
  • Know your limits: “If crafting isn’t your forte, avoid DIY gifts in favor of a simple ⁤purchased gift,” advises Shambo.


  • Undertake complex DIY projects ⁢too early: “An‌ elaborate handmade⁣ canoe is probably best saved for later in the relationship,” advises Shambo. Enough said.
  • Leave it until⁣ the ​last minute: A DIY gift is not something you can typically whip up at the last minute. ⁣“Plan ‍your project timeline⁣ to avoid rushing and last-minute stress,” advises Shambo. This includes researching⁢ where to get materials, figuring out how quickly you can get​ them shipped to you or find them at nearby stores, and estimating how many hours you’ll need to actually make the item.
  • Only give DIY gifts: Balance is⁢ key. If you craft a homemade gift for Valentine’s‍ Day, you might want ⁢to buy something for your anniversary. “Mixing ​in some store-bought presents occasionally ensures your partner doesn’t feel like you’re only giving DIY⁤ gifts to save money,”​ advises Shambo.

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