LGBTQ+ Advice

What to do when someone reveals their sexual orientation to you by Lisa

October ⁤11th‌ is ‌traditionally recognized as National Coming⁤ Out Day, ‌a ​significant event for ⁤those who ‍identify as LGBT+.‌ This day marks ⁣the momentous ⁣occasion of stepping out from the shadows of ​secrecy and embracing one’s true⁣ identity. The exhilaration one feels is​ akin to the fluttering of ​countless ‌butterflies,⁤ symbolizing the ⁤emergence of a ⁤proud, new LGBT+⁢ individual.

As members of the LGBT+ community, we are often advised ​not to seek validation from heterosexual individuals. However, the reality is that they outnumber us, making the⁢ act of coming out not just for our own liberation, but also for their understanding. This process helps to eliminate uncomfortable questions, misguided jokes, and well-meaning but misguided attempts to match ‌us with their heterosexual friends.

Coming out can be a challenging experience, but being‌ on the receiving end of ⁢such​ a revelation can be equally‌ daunting. It’s a‌ moment that many LGBT+ individuals have been preparing for their entire lives, but⁤ for the recipient, it can come as a complete surprise. Rather ‌than dismissing their feelings, it’s ⁣crucial to offer support and understanding, as they may ‌need you to be there for them.

If ⁢someone close to you,‌ who appears to have been ⁢holding their breath for an​ extended period, looks you in the ⁢eye and says, “we need‍ to talk,” there’s‌ a high probability that you’re about to witness a coming-out. Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally, and remember, you’re not going⁤ through this alone.

Avoid ⁤claiming you always knew

The reaction to​ someone saying they always ‍knew‌ about the individual’s⁢ sexual orientation varies ‌among LGBT+ people. Some find it comforting and a relief, while others feel it takes away their ‌control over the​ coming-out ⁤process. The person coming out may have believed they had successfully concealed their identity and may feel a sense of failure if you claim to have known all along. Therefore, it’s best to avoid⁣ such statements. ⁤If asked whether ‌you had any suspicions, be honest but tactful, stating that ​you didn’t want to ⁢offend them by asking and⁣ assumed they were figuring⁤ things out⁢ for themselves.

Express your ⁣gratitude for ⁢their trust

Responding with “I’m​ really glad you told me” can be incredibly comforting. This response ‍acknowledges their bravery without making​ the situation‌ about you. Reassuring phrases like “It’s going to be alright. You don’t need to worry. I’m here for you no matter what,” may sound cliché, ​but when said sincerely,​ they can ⁤have a⁤ profound impact. Remember, not all heroes wear capes.

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