All You Need to Understand About Attraction by Lisa

Understanding ​the‍ Science of Attraction and How to Navigate It

Attraction ⁢is a universal human experience, a powerful yet elusive pull‍ towards someone ⁢else. It can be romantic, sexual, platonic,⁣ or even something‍ indescribable. But what exactly⁣ is attraction? How does it occur? Are⁣ there different forms of⁢ attraction? What does it reveal about you or​ the person you’re ​attracted to? Should you act on these ⁤feelings, and ⁣if⁣ so, how?

While these questions don’t have definitive answers, AskMen consulted several experts to shed light on‍ the intriguing, delightful, and sometimes frustrating aspect of human experience⁢ known as attraction.

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What Does Attraction to​ Someone​ Signify?

Attraction is a complex emotion ‌that defies simple categorization.‍ It’s not a number, shape, or grade, but an indefinable ​quality that inspires various forms of expression. However, attempts to quantify or simplify attraction, such as rating women’s attractiveness on a scale of⁢ 1 to 10, can be demeaning and ​oversimplify the complex nature of attraction.

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Jess ⁣O’Reilly, Ph.D., host of the “@SexWithDrJess” podcast, explains that attraction is multifaceted. It’s not just ‍about sexual allure; we ⁢are drawn to people for various ​reasons. You might‍ be physically, ‌spiritually, emotionally, romantically, or mentally ‌attracted to different people at different times.

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Attractions can‍ reinforce or‌ contradict each other. ⁣For instance, ‌you ​might ⁢dislike ⁢someone but⁢ still find them⁤ sexually attractive. The number of people you’re attracted to can ⁤also vary​ greatly, and⁤ all these variations are‍ completely normal.

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Kayla Lords, sexpert‌ for, emphasizes that​ attraction⁤ is not love, commitment, or even‌ lust. It’s common ⁢to be attracted to​ more than one person, and some people even express sexual attraction ‍to objects, scenarios, and feelings.

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How Attraction Manifests Itself


Attraction often triggers physical reactions, such as a⁢ racing heart, fluttering stomach, or ⁣sweaty palms.‌ These sensations are caused by the release of specific hormones and neurotransmitters that impact our body and emotional attachment to ​the person we encounter.


Attraction also manifests in the brain,⁤ affecting arousal, motivation, fear,⁢ and addiction. It’s normal to feel ​tongue-tied‌ or not quite yourself when you‍ meet someone​ you’re attracted to. This is due to ⁤the surge in ⁤testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, ​and⁣ neuroepinephrine levels.

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In‍ Thoughts

Attraction⁢ can dominate our thoughts, especially if it’s intense or accompanied by strong emotions. ⁤You⁣ might ⁣find​ it hard​ to focus on other thoughts and‍ tasks.

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In Actions

Attraction‍ can influence our actions, sometimes in ways‍ similar‌ to addiction. This phenomenon is often exploited by⁣ advertisers. However, ⁤how ​we respond to attraction varies ​greatly, as we ⁢have more control over our actions.

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What Your Attractions Say About You

Does‍ being attracted to many,‍ few, or​ no people say something about ⁢you? Is⁤ it strange to be attracted to the same type‍ of person repeatedly? Essentially, no. ​While some ⁢people’s ‌attractions are deeply tied to ⁤their identity, our attractions don’t have to define us.

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How to ‍Handle Attraction to Someone

When you’re attracted to someone, it’s important to⁤ express your ⁣feelings appropriately.​ It’s​ crucial not to jump to ‌conclusions ⁤about your ⁣attraction or assume ⁢that the ⁢other ⁣person feels the same way. If you want​ to act⁤ on your attraction, gauge the ‍other person’s interest first.

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However, it’s more‍ challenging to gauge mutual attraction in a digital context. It’s ‍essential to‌ be⁣ open and straightforward about ​your feelings and not ​to‍ pretend to have platonic intentions‌ if you’re ⁢hoping for mutual sexual attraction.

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experiencing attraction ⁢is normal and natural. However, it’s crucial ‍to handle it appropriately to avoid ‍embarrassment or causing discomfort to others.

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