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Guidelines for Proposing to Another Man by Lisa

With the advent of⁤ marriage ⁣equality in Northern Ireland, the ‍focus now shifts to the exciting ​yet nerve-wracking task of planning a wedding. However, before the wedding comes the proposal, an event that has evolved ⁤from a simple, intimate affair to‌ a grand spectacle complete with flash mobs, fireworks, and ​hundreds of spectators. The type of proposal you choose depends on your ⁢personal preferences​ and what you believe suits ⁣you best. If you ​desire social media fame and potential sponsorship for your wedding, then go for it. After all, it’s your wedding, not mine.

It’s important to remember that despite the legalization of civil partnerships in 2005 and ‍marriage equality in 2014, proposing to a​ man as a man may feel unfamiliar or⁣ strange. This is understandable given that⁣ most of our early exposure to⁢ love stories involves⁤ heterosexual couples. Fairytales rarely feature two princes or princesses riding⁢ off into the​ sunset together. Despite changes in the‌ law, same-sex couples still‌ face unique challenges and​ lack certain opportunities.

Consider this scenario: a ‍man proposes to‌ his girlfriend in a restaurant, she says ‌yes,​ and they ⁢seal the deal with a ⁢passionate ‌kiss. The crowd around them is likely to cheer. However,⁢ two men kissing in public ⁣may not receive ‌the same ‍reaction. Before you even get‍ to societal norms, there are‌ practical‌ considerations‌ to keep in mind when planning to propose to your partner.

Is he ready ‍for marriage?

Proposals can be high-pressure situations for potential⁤ grooms. Have you determined‍ if your partner is open to the idea of marriage? It’s crucial to discuss ⁤your interest in marriage⁢ to avoid ⁢any unpleasant surprises. Remember, timing is‌ everything. Make ​sure ⁢you’re both on‍ the same page about marriage​ and what it means to each of​ you.

What type of proposal​ would he ‍prefer?

While a proposal involves two people, it’s⁤ primarily about the person being proposed to. Consider your partner’s preferences and make sure ⁣to prioritize them. If you’re​ outgoing and love social media, but your ​partner is more introverted, it might be best to ‍keep the proposal private. Choose a location that holds special meaning ⁣for both of you. And remember, safety first. Choose a location‍ where you won’t face any bigotry.

The​ Engagement‌ Rings

When it comes ‌to engagement rings for same-sex couples, there are no set rules. Some couples choose matching rings, while others⁢ opt for non-matching ‌ones. Some even exchange ‍watches instead of rings. The important thing is to choose something that represents your love and commitment to each other.

Who should be present?

While it’s tempting to involve friends and family in the proposal, it’s best to keep the moment intimate. A large crowd can add unnecessary pressure and take away from the special moment.‍ If you want to ‌celebrate with others, consider having an engagement party ‍instead.

Does he have the option to say no?

Remember, a proposal is a question, and your partner should have the ⁢freedom to answer honestly. ‍A forced ⁣’yes’ can lead to more pain down the line. ​The​ proposal should ⁣make your partner feel safe ⁢and in control, just like in a healthy marriage.

The Proposal

Avoid clichés like ‌hiding the ring in a dessert. Instead, focus on making the moment special and heartfelt. Don’t stress about getting everything perfect. The most‌ important thing is to express your​ love ⁤and commitment to your partner.

Further Reading:

Surviving as the Last Bachelor

Going Out Alone as a ⁣Man

Public Displays of Affection: A ‍Guide ⁣on ​When It’s OK to Show Affection in Public

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